The most memorable photograph I’ve seen in the past couple of years

This photo as described by Greg Hines “I find it an unspeakably poignant image; I come back to it again and again. The remarkable physical beauty of the young woman, the angel-wing-like curves of her hunched shoulder blades, the soft backlighting, the bits of gaudy color beyond her, the two people watching way beyond the graves, everything about it is just completely evocative.” What needs to be said after that.

John Moore, Memorial Day at Arlington National Cemetery / Getty Images

John Moore, Memorial Day at Arlington National Cemetery / Getty Images

Mourning a brother killed by a Taliban Rocke

Jim Nachtwey, Afghanistan, 1996 - Mourning a brother killed by a Taliban rocket.

I added in the second one, as it also explores the sense of loss and grief.  As they say in Ireland it can truly can be called the Valley of Tears, when you see pictures this powerful. It reminded me of some of these in loving memory poems. What truly moving pictures. We are all bound by our own humanity, and the pain that cuts deep in one does likewise in another. I hope that theses images help you come to terms with your own loss, help you understand that we are all frail humans in the valley of tears and that helping our fellow man is a noble achievement and goal for all people. If you want to do a post for this blog, why not drop me a comment below. Take Care

Quotes about grief

Here is a selection of saying and quotes on grief, sometimes a well chosen phrase or quote can really sum up and convey the feeling that we are going through. I hope that you find some solace in them
  • Grief makes one hour ten. –William Shakespeare
  • If you suppress grief too much, it can well redouble. –Moliere
  • Suppressed grief suffocates, it rages within the breast, and is forced to multiply its strength. –Ovid
  • What is deservedly suffered must be borne with calmness, but when the pain is unmerited, the grief is resistless. –Ovid
  • Consider how much more you often suffer from your anger and grief, than from those very things for which you are angry and grieved. –Anonymous
  • In struggling against anguish one never produces serenity; the struggle against anguish only produces new forms of anguish. –Simone Weil
  • Life is a series of experiences, each one of which makes us bigger, even though it is hard to realize this. For the world was built to develop character, and we must learn that the setbacks and griefs which we endure help us in our marching onward. –Henry Ford
  • The bitterest tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid and deeds left undone. –Harriet Beecher Stowe.
  • Seeing death as the end of life is like seeing the horizon as the end of the ocean. –David Searls
  • While we are mourning the loss of our friend, others are rejoicing to meet him behind the veil. –John Taylor
  • A heavier task could not have been imposed than I to speak my griefs unspeakable. –William Shakespeare
  • After desolation, grief brings back our humanity. –Mason Cooley
  • Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.  ~From a headstone in Ireland
  • When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.  ~Kahlil Gibran
  • It’s so curious:  one can resist tears and ‘behave’ very well in the hardest hours of grief.  But then someone makes you a friendly sign behind a window, or one notices that a flower that was in bud only yesterday has suddenly blossomed, or a letter slips from a drawer… and everything collapses.  ~Colette
  • Sorrow you can hold, however desolating, if nobody speaks to you.  If they speak, you break down.  ~Bede Jarrett
  • While grief is fresh, every attempt to divert only irritates.  You must wait till it be digested, and then amusement will dissipate the remains of it.  ~Samuel Johnson
  • Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak whispers the o’er-fraught heart and bids it break.  ~William Shakespeare
  • Tears are the silent language of grief

Quotes about grief from famous authors and from the bible. I am currently doing up a post that has poems about grief and loss, and other sympathy poems, that are special and meaningful.

God Bless and take care

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Work parties and Christmas

I was at our Christmas party yesterday. It is strange how for some people they cannot seem to switch off the work mode. There is always one person that will after about 5 minutes of chat, start bringing the conversation back to work.

I know that it is a word party but it is also  a time to get away from work, and see the human side of your colleagues.

The annual rant regarding the work Christmas party is now over, tune in, in 12 months for a new one.

FYI: we ate at Florida’s seafood restaurants – The Sea Watch restaurant. Their site is Sea watch on the ocean . I had the Arthichoke hearts stuffed with crab, as a starter and for the main course I had the seafood linguini. So the Work Christmas party was excellent, but sitting beside the work bore at the Christmas party was not. I like to know as well that as the fish is coming from near by, that i am doing my bit for the earth

If anyone has any recipes for Seafood linguini , I would appreciate if you could post them in the comments below or a link. Thanks


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Grief and Sympathy at Christmas

There is no doubt that one of the hardest day’s after a bereavement is Christmas Day. We put such an emphasis on Christmas as a time of family that it can nearly be overwhelming.

It is important to acknowledge the loss, the change and try to keep your self busy. Be careful that you do not slip in to depression. Grief loss is a very tough and cold feeling, it can be hard to cope with loss and bereavement. I recommend that if you find that you are not coping with grief, that you should maybe sit down and talk with someone. It is so important to get these feelings off your mind. It is not a rejection, it is a healthy expression of you pain. Grief is something that occurs in stage, so you have to work to process throughout, so check out grief support griefs, grief counselling or talking to a religious figure.

Remember that the Winter solstice of Dec 21st and Christmas day both mark the lowest point of the year, the least sunlight. Spring always comes after. It will get better. Christmas will have a few tears, how could it not, it will be better.

The Colorado River is the most majestic body of water in North America, for sheer scale, and rugged beauty.

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High and lows of grief

It seems that after a loss that the pain will never end, time does to a degree heal all wounds. No one wants their loved ones to be lost in a world of grief for too long, it doesn’t mean that they are forgotten about or that you love them any less.
Even then, there can always be other lows, birthdays, memories, seeing a chair empty, even years after, can bring a tear to the eye. It is a high price to pay for love, but there is no doubt that no matter how hard it is, it is better that we can feel such love in the first place.

keep the memory of the person alive, with a memorial tree, or a memorial book and stay in touch with family to support them and gain strength from them.

How to make an online memorial tribute.

Dealing with grief after losing a loved one is probably one of the hardest things that you have, not just for you, but it impact on everyone that knew and cared for that person. A great idea, that is growing in popularity is creating online memorials so that family and friends can have an easily accessed memorial and reminder of all the things they love about that person. It is a great way, to know that the person is not forgotten, to support your family and friends.

With a memorial Web site, you can post up pictures, add a video of significant and great times that you had, it can become a real celebration of life, and a way of keeping in touch with family and friends, so that a support network in built up around the site.

As people add in Little pieces, photo’s and video’s you will find that you will come across memories that you had forgotten or see fun memories that friends had, with the departed loved one. Where ever you are in the world, or how many years later that you may look at the site, you will have access to an incredible  resource that you can look back on.

Steps

  1. Include a time line, with Birth date, significant events such as wedding, birth of children or other milestones that stand for you. The great thing about online memorials is that you can always update the site and add in details as you go on.
  2. Add a photo to the site, if you do not have one that is already online, say on a site such as Flickr, or on a digital card. Take a photo and have it scanned in via a scanning machine, someone that  you know will have one, or go in to an office supply shop or the like, or a photo shop that will be able to scan it and put it on a CD for your online memorial site.
  3. Have a think about what text that you want to add to the memorial site, so do  you want to add the eulogy, or maybe personal tributes, some images of memorial cards that were given to you. What about a personal comment segment do that friends and family can add their own eulogy pieces, fun memories, or even leave message that they never got to say.
  4. Remember that there is nothing like multi-media clips on a online memorial site, especially as many people may have different photos or clips that you may have never seen.
  5. Decide on a Web site host. You may prefer to register your own domain to fully reflect the person being remembered, or you may like to use the services of an on-line memorial website host. With these services, you usually get a unique URL and an account for customizing your Website. You will need to find an on-line memorial service provider that suits your needs, budget and expectations.
  6. Get in touch with family and friends and ask them if they have anything that they would like to add to the site. Start collating a list of emails and names that

There are many different online memorial sites, so have a look around and see what they can offer you. Have a look and see if you can see any memorial sites that are recommend by other users. It will be a lasting online memorial, so put some time in to preparing it.Weight loss

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Sunflowers

I have planted sunflowers today,they were already started off in doors, and quickly reached about 18 inches, so I decided that it was time that they were set in their own piece of ground. I thought that it was quiet symbolic of our lives, and everything that we go through, and how we must stay on the sunny side of life, and follow the light the whole time. It is too easy to become despondent and loose hope, but hope springs eternal, and we have to keep that in mind.

Hoping that you all had a wonderful Easter.

 

dad socks , it is surprizing how much crappy presents cost the economy every year

Whilst I sit here, and typing on my laptop, my parents have gone to a funeral of an old friend. It is not someone I have ever met, but had often heard of them spoken fondly of.

I first became aware of death, and it’s ever present threat, when a friends cousin was killed in a car crash, when I was eleven. The idea that someone could be gone, from this world in such a complete way never occurred to me up till then. Death, was suddenly a possibility for all people, not just older people.

Now that I am older, death has become all too well known, for my me as classmates, relatives, and neighbours die.

How are we to deal with loss, bereavement, facing up to the certainty of our own death.

I use several affirmations to get me through the difficulties of facing death, and dealing with bereavement.

1. Live life in the now, whether one has five minutes left of fifty years, most of do not know, so make the most of now, this helps remove the worry about the small things in life, that can eat us up.

2. Once someone has passed on, there suffering is over, the pain has come to an end. I personally believe that there is an after life, but I don’t understand what it is. Whether you do or not, is irrelevant, the ones who are now hurting are those left behind, concentrate your thoughts and energies on being there for the bereaved, whether it is family or friends. You need to be there for each other.

3. Remember that when your life is over, that you will have left a large body of work, and relationships that will have majorly impacted everyone. Be conscious of doing good deeds when you can, Be confident that you will leave the world in a better place than when you arrived.

4. Just because we do not know what awaits on the other side, does not mean that we have to fear it.

5. If you are a person of faith, take comfort in that, if you are not, take comfort in the love for you that will live on.

Daffodils

As I was walking through the park today, I saw my first daffodil, starting to breakout. Slowly it seemed to emerge from the green leaves,in to the spring sunshine.

The snow had melted last week, the river was swollen from the run off the mountains, but it really seemed like the first day of spring. The walk that my partner and I had done once a week, over the last winter, now seemed transformed. The cold and the ice were gone, the leafless trees, were starting to bud once again with new shoots, the last few weeks seemed a distant memory.  It got me thinking, that once we start, look at the world in a new way, once we let the light in again, that the past memories, the hurt, the loss, the pain can start to dissipate.

We are as much a part of nature, as the daffodils, the new bud on the branches. We can undergo renewal, after our personal winter, life and hope spring eternal, it doesn’t mean that you are forgetting someone, just that you are remembering them in your own way, while at the same time, moving forward in life and time.

So basically all I am saying is that Spring always comes around. Stay Strong. Grief

The Weekend

It must be the January blues, but I a really glad that the weekend is here, going to a friends house tomorrow for dinner, and my Sister and her brother in law are visiting on Sunday, and bringing my 2 1/2 year old nice. So that should be really nice.

Truly the simple things in life are the best, as the Beatles said ” the best things in life are free”

Helpful Tips When Burying or Cremating the Remains of Family Member

 

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